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Where do our core beliefs come from?

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Some of us may be prone to develop negative core beliefs based simply on the genes we inherited a significant

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part of the tendency to experience negative emotions.

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What personality researchers call neuroticism depends on our genes.

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And research has shown that core beliefs are tied to our levels of neuroticism.

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It's unlikely that genetic differences account for the specific core beliefs we hold.

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These particular beliefs depend on our life experiences.

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Sophi constantly battles feelings of being not good enough in some way.

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She's had this feeling for as long as she can remember and recalls a similar feeling from as early as

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get through Gartin.

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She had struggled with ADHD attention deficit hyperactivity disorder as a child and although she was

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very bright, had been late learning to treat her parents, had her in kindergarten when she moved school

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districts to give her a chance to catch up with her peers.

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Sophie's little sister, Claire, in contrast, was reading before age five, and her parents frequently

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praised Claire for her calm behavior and success in school as an adult.

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Now, looking back, Sophie suspects her feelings of inadequacy are based in part on the disappointment

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she sensed from her parents and her belief that they loved Claire more than they loved her.

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A single event of parental disapproval or mild teasing is unlikely to leave a lasting mark.

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However, a general pattern of treatment will probably shape the way individuals view of the world and

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themselves.

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If the event is sufficiently traumatic, even a single episode can shape our beliefs.

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For example, one assault can shift our views.

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How Save the World is just as a single betrayal can alter our ability to trust others.

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We can also develop core beliefs based on things we observed as we were growing up.

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For example, if we witnessed our father being constantly stressed out about finances, we may have

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developed a core belief about economic scarcity or our if our mother was continually were warning us

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to be careful, we could develop our core belief about the world as a place of constant threat.

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Some of the beliefs we developed earlier in life may have made sense at the time, but are less useful

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now.

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For example, a boy who grew up with an abusive parent might have learned that standing up for himself

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only led to more abuse.

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As a result, he developed the core belief that I am helpless, which reflected the powerlessness of

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his situation.

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Decades later, this belief may persist, even though he's no longer helpless.

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Child takes some time to think about your own history.

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Are there any events that stand out as possible contributors to your core beliefs?

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What were the predominant family dynamics as you were growing up?

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What were you told earlier in life?

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And how might these experiences have affected your views of the world?

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Other people and yourself take some time to write, to write your thoughts in your journal.